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What is Heyder
Curated Groups
Built on a Nobel Prize-winning theory and a behavioral framework.
Designed for bonding
Sharing food breaks barriers. Conversations happen naturally.
Rituals that reward
Auckland
Every Tuesday. We will share you the details.
How it works
Three steps. One great dinner.
Sign Up
Take a quiz to help us understand you and the type of people you wish to meet. We handle the venue, the menu and find a compatible group who wanted to meet someone like you.
5 minutes
Show Up
Head to your assigned restaurant. Settle in and meet your people — it’s okay to be nervous. Remember the best part is knowing they chose to be there for a purpose, just like you.
Every Tuesday
Socialise
Expect fun, laughs and stories over a curated menu. Take part in a simple ritual that helps you connect — with a reward tied to the experience. Show up once, twice, find your people.
Rituals + rewards
Our Purpose
Why we do this.
"Built for the ones who've tried everything else."
You’ve been to social events. You’ve downloaded the apps. You’ve had the conversations that went nowhere and left wondering what’s missing.
What’s missing isn’t opportunity. It’s knowing — before you walk in — that someone there actually wanted to meet you.
HeyDer exist to make that possible. To find you the right people — not just more people.
Our Features
Lasting bonds are created in a setting
that makes you feel belong.
Matching science
HeyDer uses a Nobel Prize winning theory and a behavioral framework to curate a right group so that matches are intentional and not by chance.
Designed for bonding
The act of sharing food breaks barriers fast. You naturally pass dishes and start conversations without forced icebreakers or awkward introductions.
Rituals that reward
Every HeyDer dinner includes a ritual that the whole table takes part in together. It’s designed to bring everyone closer — and there’s a real reward waiting on the other side of it.
A fun way to make new friends
Where food is shared along with stories, laughs and real connections.
"Dinners meant for Your presence."
FAQ
Frequently asked questions.
When you book with us we do the matching, allocate the restaurant, and plan the menu. All you need to do is show up and have fun. Food and drinks you pay at the venue.
Our initial focus is for people aged 20–38 in Auckland, but we will soon be expanding to other age groups and cities.
At the moment there is a $5 booking fee for the first 50 signups, then $10 per booking.
Simply take the personality quiz and let us do the magic. Choose which night suits you and we will let you know once we have found a group for you.
We don't match you with people like you. We match you with people who would enjoy you. A short quiz helps us understand who you are and what you are seeking. Our matching framework does the rest
After 30 min of the reservation time, the reward is unlocked. A fun ritual that helps you connect through sharing and laughter. You have to be there to find out.
We always aim for 6 but if someone can't make it, we don't cancel. The dinner still runs and the reward still unlocks.
Our restaurant partners cater to allergen needs and are informed of any dietary requirements. We'll share the menu a day prior. Get in touch with us or the restaurant for any specific info.
Every Tuesday across different venues in Auckland. Choose your preferred date and we'll confirm once we find a group for you.
Priced as per your budget — $45–$50 or $50-$55. Whatever you choose, you are meant to have a good time.