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What is Heyder
Unlike other social experiences; HeyDer brings together small groups of people for curated dinners — not because they share similar interest, but because each person at the table was specifically looking for someone like the others.
Curated Groups
Built on a award winning theory and a behavioral framework.
Designed for bonding
An experience built around sharing and belonging.
Rituals that reward
Showing up earns you deeper connections and real perks.
Auckland
Every Tuesday. We will share you the details.
How it works
Three steps. One great dinner.
Sign Up
Take a quiz to help us understand you and the type of people you wish to meet. We handle the venue, the menu and find a compatible group who wanted to meet someone like you.
5 minutes
Show Up
Head to your assigned restaurant. Settle in and meet your people — it’s okay to be nervous. Remember the best part is knowing they chose to be there for a purpose, just like you.
Every Tuesday
Socialise
Expect fun, laughs and stories over a curated menu. Take part in a simple ritual that helps you connect — with a reward tied to the experience. Show up once, twice, find your people.
Rituals + rewards
Our Purpose
Why we do this.
"Built for the ones who've tried everything else."
You’ve been to social events. You’ve downloaded the apps. You’ve had the conversations that went nowhere and left wondering what’s missing.
What’s missing isn’t opportunity. It’s a space where you can be around people who make you feel belong. A space to have meaningful conversations and built genuine connections without the pressure to perform.
HeyDer exist to make that possible. To find you the right people — not just more people.
Our Features
Lasting bonds are created in a setting
that makes you feel belong.
Matching science
HeyDer uses a behavioral framework to curate a right group so that matches are intentional and build an experience around people who would complement your personality.
Designed for bonding
The act of sharing food breaks barriers fast. You naturally pass dishes and start conversations without forced icebreakers or awkward introductions.
Rituals that reward
Every HeyDer dinner includes a ritual that the whole table takes part in together. It’s designed to bring everyone closer — and there’s a real reward waiting on the other side of it.
Customer Reviews
Feedback from valued clients.
OMG! how did I end up talking for 3 hours to people I haven't met before. This wasn't what I was expecting when I signed up for this event. The set menu for our table was yummy and the company was perfect for some deep conversations and banter. Still thinking about it as I type. Can't wait to do this again.
The staff asked us to leave as the restaurant was closing.That says a lot about how this experience felt. Everyone was being real and the conversations went deep. The food and drinks at the venue were well organised. 2nd June dinner booked already. Much needed refresher.
What an amazing concept of meeting new people over amazing cuisine. I am sold and would highly recommend people give this a try. It's that social experiment that I am supportive of and in a world where we are connected online yet lonelier than ever, HeyDer might be the most human thing you do all year.
A fun way to make new friends
Where food is shared along with stories, laughs and real connections.
“The staff asked us to leave as the restaurant was closing. That says a lot about how this experience felt. Everyone was being real and the conversations went deep. The food and drinks at the venue were well organised. This felt truly refreshing“
"Dinners meant for Your presence."
FAQ
Frequently asked questions.
When you book with us we do the matching, allocate the restaurant, and plan the menu. All you need to do is show up and have fun. Food and drinks you pay at the venue.
Adults 18+ who want to meet new people & make new friends; regardless of age, gender, orientation or background.
A $5 booking fee to grab your spot.
Simply take the personality quiz and let us do the magic. Choose which night suits you and we will let you know once we have found a group for you.
We don't match you with people like you. We match you with people who would enjoy you. A short quiz helps us understand who you are and what you are seeking. Our matching framework does the rest
Every dinner has two rituals that helps you connect through sharing and laughter. At end you can get a chance to choose the group reward.
Cancellations should be notified at least 48hrs before the booking time. Refunds usually take 2-3 working days.
Our restaurant partners cater to allergen needs and are informed of any dietary requirements. We'll share the menu a day prior. Get in touch with us or the restaurant for any specific info.
Every Tuesday at 7 pm across different venues in Auckland. Choose your preferred date and we'll confirm you the venue and group details.
Priced as per your budget — $45–$50 or $50-$55. Whatever you choose, you are meant to have a good time.